The world of BDSM is a broad one, so even if you’ve dipped your toes and tried out a few plays and scenarios, there’s still a lot to discover. One of the things you might be interested in trying out is using a whip during sex.

At first, you might be hesitant. After all, whips are used to strike animals to make them do what we want, and they were also used as corporal punishment in the past. So, you might be wondering: is it really a good idea to use a whip in the bedroom? Does it really bring pleasure?

The answer is yes — as long as you and your partner have established enthusiastic consent and clear boundaries, a whip can be used to add spice to your sex life. And you might be surprised to discover that once you try this out, you’ll never look back.

What is a sex whip?

A sex whip is a toy used to hit your body with some level of force. In terms of appearance, it looks pretty similar to regular whips — though, of course, you can expect a few design quirks here and there (for example, the leather tip can take the shape of a heart).

A sex whip is commonly used during impact play, a BDSM practice that involves spanking, whipping, flogging, caning, and other acts where on partner strikes another for sexual gratification. This tool is typically wielded by the dominant, and it’s also often paired with other bondage accessories, such as blindfolds and restraints.

What are the types of BDSM whips?

Currently, there are several kinds of BDSM whip that you can choose from. The following are the most popular ones.

CROP

Modeled after the riding crop that’s typically used for horseback riding, the BDSM crop features a small handle and a flexible spine. The tip is where crops tend to differ from each other. Some crops have a broad tongue or a flat surface, while the others have a double tip (the leather loops over so that it makes a greater noise with less of an impact) or dual sides (the sides usually have different materials on them, making this type of whip perfect for experimentation).

CANE

Technically, it’s not a whip, but it is used to spank the submissive during sex, so it still counts as one in our book. The cane is best suited for couples who have a relatively high pain tolerance because its power is concentrated, so it can deliver intense stings.

FLOGGER

Instead of having a flat surface for the tip, a flogger has long leather fronds or tresses. This design allows for more versatility — you can use a flogger to whip and tickle your partner.

If you want to learn more about floggers, check out the category page about this accessory that we have up on our website.

BULLWHIP

Bullwhips may look like they’re easy to use — but in reality, they’re actually challenging. In fact, it might take some time for people to master it, which is why the bullwhip is only recommended for experienced doms.

If you really want to use this particular type of whip, you should practice first. Use the bullwhip on inanimate objects outside so that you can refine your aim. Once you’ve perfected your aim, that’s when you can start using the bullwhip in the bedroom.

Why do people love using a whip in bed?

The simple answer to this question is that getting whipped can feel good — and there’s actually a scientific explanation behind this.

The buttocks area — which is usually where we get spanked during sex — is full of sensitive nerves. It’s also near the genital area, so you can get aroused if someone touches or spanks your ass. When you get spanked, you may feel hurt, but at the same time, the action activates the nerve endings and blood circulation, so you’ll be sexually stimulated as well.

In addition to this, some people are simply into sadism and masochism – which are both sexual preferences. Sadism refers to the kink of taking pleasure in inflicting pain on others, while masochism is taking pleasure in receiving pain. There are also people who enjoy both sides of this equation, and they’re referred to as sadomasochists.

So, how will you know if you like spanking or using a whip in bed? The thing is, you will never know until you try. With that said, you and your partner should have an earnest discussion about whether you should give spanking during sex a try or not.

How do I use a whip in bed?

The whip is undoubtedly one of the most versatile tools in the BDSM arsenal. The following are some of its most common uses.

SPANKING OR WHIPPING

This is the primary purpose of a whip. When you use this tool to spank your partner, you have to bear in mind to always go for the fleshiest parts of the skin, such as the buttocks and thighs. This is because the flesh absorbs most of the blow, so it won’t hurt that much for your partner.

If you hit other parts of the body, such as the pelvic bone, you might end up injuring your partner, which is the last thing you want.

TICKLING

If whipping is too much for you and your partner, that’s totally fine. You can start slow by using this tool to tickle. Find your partner’s erogenous zones and graze the tip of your whip across them. For a much better experience, consider tying up your significant other — getting restrained while being tickled will turn them on exponentially.

STROKING

Another gentle usage of a whip is stroking. Doing this will create anticipation, which is why this is usually done before going for a spank.

Just like tickle play, gently stroke your partner’s erogenous zones — the spine is also a great place for stroking. Take your time with this act — tease your partner until they can no longer take it, then flick your wrist for a satisfying thwack.

Are there any precautions that I should know about using a whip?

Using a whip undoubtedly makes lovemaking even more exciting — but it can also be dangerous if you don’t do it right. So, before you take out the whip, there are a few precautions you should know.

• Establish a safe word first. When you or your partner feels uncomfortable at any point of the play, anyone can utter the safe word to stop.
• Always go for the fleshiest parts. There’s a reason why when you research spanking, you always see people spanking their partners’ asses or thighs. The more flesh there is, the easier it is for your partner to handle pain. Also, make sure that you don’t overuse the whip in one area — doing so can make your partner incredibly sore there.
• If you see boils or blood appear, stop spanking immediately.
• When you’re finished, apply a soothing cream or aloe vera to your partner’s skin to relieve the pain. This is part of aftercare, an essential practice after every play session to ensure that everyone – but especially the submissive – is feeling good and relaxed about what happened.
• Consider wearing eye protection when using a long whip. Accidents have happened to other people before, and you’d definitely want to minimize this risk.
• Never use a bullwhip unless you’ve practiced enough times that your aim is now perfect.

Our Recommendations

If you and your partner have come to the agreement of trying out spanking, it’s time to choose a whip. There are many products out there, and the following are some of our recommendations that you can find in our shop.

IF YOU PREFER CROPS

Obei The Admirer Leather Whip Heart

Featuring an eye-catching heart-shaped tip, the Obei The Admirer Leather Whip Heart is soft and flexible, and it’s powerful enough to provide satisfying flicks.

Obei The Admirer Leather Whip Spade

As the name suggests, the Obei The Admirer Leather Whip Spade features a spade-shaped tip. Aside from that, the handle is long and firm, providing a secure grip while you’re using it.

Obei The Performer Leather Whip

The Obei The Performer Leather Whip is a lightweight riding crop made from high-quality faux leather that can deliver both teasing slaps and gentle caresses.

Obei The Lover Leather Whip

With a simple yet elegant design, the Obei The Lover Leather Whip packs quite a punch despite not having any other quirks to its appearance. Because of this, this whip is perfect for couples who are new to BDSM.

Obei The Motivator Leather Whip

The Obei The Motivator Leather Whip is a riding crop with a slim-tip and wrist loop for the handle. It’s also made with premium faux leather, so it feels soft on the skin.

Obei The Ruler Leather Whip

Made with high-quality vegan leather, the Obei The Ruler Leather Whip provides a soft, decadent glide to the skin, as well as a sharp, stinging slap. Because of this, beginners will definitely take delight in this particular whip.

Obei The Teaser Leather Whip 35 cm

At only 35 cm long, the Obei The Teaser Leather Whip is the go-to whip for people who are always on the go. You can simply squeeze this whip into your luggage, and no matter where you end up staying for the night, you and your partner can engage in spicy bondage play before sleeping.

IF YOU PREFER BULLWHIPS

Obei The Dictator Leather Whip

Are you feeling brave enough to try out the dark, erotic fantasy you’ve been having? If so, then the Obei The Dictator Leather Whip is the perfect BDSM tool for you.

Obei The Intimidator Leather Whip

The Obei The Intimidator Leather Whip features a design that’s both intimidating and enticing: the tail and the handle feature the same braided design, while the tip is heart-shaped. It’s also pretty long — at 1.3 meters. Because of this, this whip is best-suited for people who want to raise the bar of their BDSM experience.

Frequently Asked Questions

HOW DO I CARE FOR MY WHIP?

Caring for your sex whip is a pretty easy process. After use, you can simply use a damp towel with soap to wipe down the whip. If you have a sex toy cleaner, you can also choose to use that.

If your whip is made of leather, you shouldn’t submerge it in the water — doing so will make the whip absorb moisture, which will damage its texture and structural integrity. We also recommend using a leather conditioner. That way, your whip will always be in good condition.

Last but not least, handle your whip gently. If you excessively bend it, it might actually break.

Did you know…?

Whips are actually available in the Philippines — thanks to our sex shop! Here at NOTI.ph, we believe that all women should have the chance to explore their sexuality without guilt or stigma. That’s why we aim to offer as many adult accessories as possible, and that includes whips.

If you want to check out our stock, you can find the famed accessories under the “Whips” catalog on our site.

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