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Women can rely on a wide selection of dildos for internal or external stimulation. Still, it’s worth noting that 7 out of 10 women need clitoral stimulation for orgasm. That means for these people, it could be worth investing in compact (e.g. bullet, egg) or powerful (e.g. wand) options.

People suspect that dildos could decrease the sensitivity of your clitoris after frequent use. But they’ve never been proven to produce long-term side effects. Our body could just be tired from prolonged contact. If this occurs, give it a rest for a few days, and you’ll eventually find your sexual appetite returning.

Lubricants are optional for vaginal stimulation, but using it would definitely reduce friction and make for a smoother, more sensual experience overall. However, it’s a must for anal stimulation, since the anus doesn’t naturally provide its own lubrication. Be careful not to use silicone-based lubricants with silicone dildos.

Condoms can extend the lifespan of your sex toy and make cleanup easier. So if the size and shape allow it, they’re never a bad idea. Change the condom before it comes into contact with another part of your body. Also, never use condoms coated with silicone-based lubricants for silicone dildos.

Sex toy cleaners, which are specially formulated for dildos like yours, would be your best bet for cleaning and maintenance. Read the manual for more details. Also take the time to inspect it for any sign of damage—if you spot cracks, stop using the device immediately.

Not all dildos are safe for anal penetration. Check if yours has a flare or handle at the other end before going through the backdoor. You wouldn’t want, say, your egg dildo stuck inside your anus, because that would mean an embarrassing trip to the emergency room.

Troubleshooting can be relatively easy for dildos. Ask yourself the following questions:

• Are the batteries or cord in working order?
• Are all components properly secured?
• Is there any foreign object jamming the switch?

On the rare occasion that the device heats up or malfunctions, stop using the device and have it checked.

Communication is extremely essential in this case. Be honest about how and where you want to please yourself with your sex toy. But more importantly, remind him that these mechanical sensations would never replace the physical and emotional pleasure you get from him alone.