There's something unbelievably hot about getting your posterior smacked in the middle of playtime. It is a great starting point for kink beginners. Next to getting handcuffed and blindfolded, erotic spanking may be the most common BDSM activity that couples try out in the bedroom. Most start with hand spanking but eventually explore the use of paddles, which come in a variety of shapes and materials. How do you choose the one that will smack the brattiness out of you or your partner?

What is a spanking paddle?

A spanking paddle is a tool that is used for striking someone's body, most often on the buttocks. It has two parts: the handle and the broad flat surface, known as the blade. Commonly, paddles are made of wood, leather, or metal. However, there are some made from other materials like plastic and rubber.

In BDSM, spanking paddles are used to discipline a submissive during sex play. It is designed to give a sting of pain on the butt (or thighs and other body parts) of the partner whenever they commit an act of "disobedience". Meanwhile, the one who wields this toy is known as the dominant.

What's so good about using a spanking paddle?

One of the main reasons people try spanking, whether getting spanked or being the one dealing it, is because it brings pleasure. Whether soft and gentle or wild and rough, spanks cause more blood to flow in the area of impact, making that part more sensitive. It also makes your body release endorphins, dopamine, serotonin, melatonin, and other hormones which make you feel more energized and confident.

Engaging in spanking can also reduce one's stress levels. BDSM activities, such as impact play, require a degree of focus and concentration. It makes the participants pay attention to what's happening in the present. This results in psychological benefits similar to what you get from activities like playing chess, meditating, or knitting. In short, you experience elevated concentration, relaxation, and reduced mental activities, reducing the stress level that your body experiences.

And then there's also the benefit of fostering a stronger bond between partners. Spanking or any other form of impact play requires a high degree of trust. Playing with your partner in this manner shows that you trust each other, resulting in a stronger, more permanent bond.

What are the types of BDSM paddles?

You can choose between two types of paddles. The first one is the straight paddle. This comes in one piece with a round or rectangular blade and is very suited for beginners.

The other choice is the slapper. It is essentially two paddles layered together. When the slapper hits a surface, the top layer slaps against the bottom one, creating more impact. This one deals more pain and is preferred by those who want a more intense experience.

Paddles can also come with or without holes. The ones with holes allow air to pass through the blade (reducing air friction) and cause more pain with less effort. This type is ideal for the more experienced BDSM practitioners who already have a good sense of their strength and how to control their hits.

Paddle Size

You can also categorize paddles based on the size of their blades. Surprisingly, the larger the blade, the weaker the impact. Therefore, the larger ones are better options for beginners. These are also ideal for warm-up because they cause more blood to flow in a larger area, causing the body to release more endorphins.

Smaller blades have smaller impact areas and inflict more localized or targeted pain.

Don't forget to factor in the handle as well. Choose one that fits the wielder's hands best. Some toys have large handles that may be too hard to maneuver for doms with small hands. Always check the dimensions. You don't want to accidentally throw your paddle across the room if it turns out to be too hard to handle.

Paddle Material

Another factor to consider when choosing a paddle is the material it is made of. The most common material is faux leather over a soft plastic or cardboard core. This is a good newbie paddle because the core is relatively light and deals less impact. The faux leather also somewhat softens the blows. These also have a little give because of the flexible material.

Genuine leather stings a little more. The resulting spanking can be more intense if it is wrapped around a more rigid core like wood, fiberglass, or perspex.

Some paddles do not have a leather covering. Without the cushioning leather, they could deliver sharp, painful blows. If you choose a traditional wooden paddle, ensure that the material is properly treated and varnished to avoid causing injuries due to splinters.

Besides the variety of sensations that each material offers, this can also affect the appearance of the paddle. Do you find black leather appealing, or does the sight of the wood grain make your thighs clench? Besides leather (real or faux), wood, plastic, and glass, you'll also be able to find ones covered with suede or made from ceramic, silicone, or rubber.

The material will also come into play when it comes to clean-up. Some materials are easier to clean than others. For example, cleaning a paddle made of leather and suede would require more effort since you can't just wash that in a bowl of water.

How do I use a spanking paddle safely?

Communication is crucial. You can't just spank your partner without discussing it first. Bring up your desire to spank or be spanked and ask if your partner wants to try it out. If your partner is interested in it, bring up boundaries. How hard or lightly are you willing to spank or be spanked? What kind of fantasies would you like to act out during the session?

Communication shouldn't end once the play begins. Speak up and let your partner know how something is turning you on or isn't working for you. Of course, make sure that you are open to any pushbacks. Honest dialogue ensures that everyone is having a fun time. And don't forget your safeword to stop any act for whatever reason.

Location is also key. Restrict your hits to the fleshy body parts, like the buttocks and the upper thighs. A hard hit to anything higher than those sweet spots can result in an injury.

Do your research. There are tried and tested sequences (where, how often, and how hard to hit) of spanking that will encourage the body to release the optimum amounts of happy hormones. These will allow you to derive more pleasure from the act and enable the one being spanked to endure longer sessions. You can start with warm-up spanks (light smacks) through a layer of clothing. Vary the location and strength of the swats, so you don't bruise a particular area.

Finally, end each session with aftercare. Both partners should check in with one another to ensure that everyone had a fun time. You can also apply a soothing lotion to the spanked areas to reduce swelling or bruising.

Top paddles from NOTI

Obei Bound to Please Leather Spanking Paddle

The Bound to Please from Obei is a round-bladed paddle covered completely with premium leather. You can deal blows from any angle using this dual-sided implement. While the leather covering is supple, the core is quite firm, ensuring better control over your swings. This toyfriend can deal light taps or core-shaking slaps on your partner's various sweet spots. The Obei Bound to Please is a piece of excellent equipment for both newbies and experts of impact play.

Obei The Beginner Real Leather Spanking Paddle

The Beginner is perfect for those just starting their journey into impact play. The flexible spanking surface and soft, cushioning faux leather cover delivers the ideal combination of pleasure and pain. This beginner-friendly spanking paddle has a streamlined and ergonomic design that makes every spanking session comfortable for both the one receiving and the one delivering the spanks.

Obei Bound to Explore Leather Paddle

The Bound to Explore is a stunning slapper made of high-quality black leather with gold accents. It is designed to be skin-friendly and lightweight. But don't let this fool you. It can deliver stinging blows if wielded by a masterful dom. It is the perfect tool to keep any bratty sub in line.

Obei Bound to Seduce Real Leather Spanking Paddle

This streamlined, rectangular paddle is an absolute scorcher when wielded properly. Bound to Seduce offers a small surface and dual-sided handle that gives the dom a better grip to deliver targeted blows on the fleshy parts of the sub's body. Plus, the real leather adds some zing to each smack. The base also has a slot so you can attach a string or ribbon to act as a wrist loop. There's no need to put the implement down as you move your sub to a better spanking position.

Frequently Asked Questions

How do I choose the right spanking paddle?

The first factor is the kind of sensation you want to experience (whether you're the spanker or the spankee). Narrow and flexible paddles generally deliver stinging swats, while the larger, heavier, or rigid ones deliver thudding smacks.

Size also matters when it comes to the handle. Always check the dimensions and choose one that fits the wielder's hands best.

The last factor is the material. Some deliver more sting while others provide more cushioning. Leather, plastic, and wood in general are ideal for those who want to experience a more intense sensation. Also consider the ways you plan to use your paddle. Are you thinking of using it on only one person, or will the play involve more players? If you're planning a rendezvous with multiple people, getting a paddle made from non-porous plastics that you can easily sterilize is best.

How do I use a spanking paddle safely?

It's important to let your partner know what you wish to explore. Don't just launch into spanking without having a discussion first. Do your research. Once you've agreed to do it, establish your boundaries and what you want to happen during the session. Communicate all throughout the session.

Restrict the hits to the buttocks, upper thighs, and other fleshy body parts to avoid any injuries.

Finally, don't forget the aftercare routine.

Did you know?

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